Naomi Brubaker Naomi Brubaker

Spiritual Warfare

Until recently, I felt like spiritual warfare was a way of over-spiritualizing experiences in life and the World. It felt like people would claim spiritual warfare for a flat tire or the things that occurred to make someone late for bible study. It felt hooky to me, but I knew there was truth to this idea of the enemy, at work against what God was trying to accomplish in my life.

Written by Naomi Brubaker

Until recently, I felt like spiritual warfare was a way of over-spiritualizing experiences in life and the World.  It felt like people would claim spiritual warfare for a flat tire or the things that occurred to make someone late for bible study.  It felt hooky to me, but I knew there was truth to this idea of the enemy, at work against what God was trying to accomplish in my life. 

Early on in my time on church staff, some interpersonal conflicts began to impede the ministry work.  There was an unresolved tension and no real reason for these conflicts.  A wise friend/coworker gently guided me through the idea that the enemy was working in these places.  That his goal was to derail our ministry efforts and the harder we worked for the good of God, the harder the enemy would attack.  Until you feel these attacks first hand, it can feel like over-spiritualization of experiences of people giving power to the enemy for coincidences and inconveniences.  

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Having the knowledge and tools to fight this spiritual battle is critical to all believers.  We are fighting a battle against an enemy, the bible makes that very clear.  Ephesians 6:11-12 states:  “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

I should not be surprised when experiencing these attacks or seeing others experiencing spiritual attacks.  I believe worship is one of our battle weapons in the fight against the enemy. I find the words of worship music can drown out the lies of the enemy or send him running.  There is a song that I love that I feel sums up the protection God has for us, the weapons we have and what we are fighting. The song by Upperroom “Surrounded” starts out by saying clearly that God has prepared us a table in the presence of our enemies, praise and thanksgiving are my weapons. It repeats over and over “When it looks like I’m surrounded, I’m surrounded by You.”  The entire song feels like a defense to the attack of the enemy and it’s true, we are not alone in these battles, we are surrounded by the Spirit of God.  

In learning more about what the enemy is trying to do in my life, directly in opposition to what God is trying to do, I felt ill equipped. Knowing the more I pursued God’s love for me and my family, the more the enemy would be aware of my weak spots and try to enter.  My marriage, my kids, the ministry work I was doing, my friendships and more are all at risk for an opening to be seen by the enemy and to have him step in.  It only takes a little space for the enemy to get into our minds. The hard part is then removing him from these spaces and places in our life.  I am by no means an expert or even remotely equipped on this topic, but have come face to face with the enemy in my life.

Most recently, I remember a few months ago 2 very dark days filled with calculated spiritual attacks.  My kids were impacted, husband, dog, my own well being and the enemy even terrorized my dreams.  These two days were draining and difficult.  I felt like my world was in a delicate balance and one more thing added to the day would send it into complete implosion.  At the end of these exhausting days of what truly felt like a battle, I knew without a doubt that God ruled supreme over all.  He is on his throne and in control.  

We could see in the days leading up to this spiritual battle that tension was building.  We began to put on the armor of God and prepare.  We have a dedicated prayer team that we email out regular prayer requests to and we immediately sent an emergency prayer email giving the details of what was going on.  Immediately people all over the US and world began praying for us.  We guarded our hearts with truth and went into these challenges with immense peace, very little fear and a lot of unknown. How would our lives look different if we called on a group of believers more often to intentionally pray over our needs, our battles and our need for strength in these times.  What would a challenging day, doctors appointments or IEP meeting feel like if all over the nation we were calling on each other to offer critical prayers on our behalf?  I have to believe it would make a huge difference on the orientation of our hearts and potentially the forces at play in our lives. 

Not every day necessitates this full on warfare, but every day has opportunities for the enemy to take hold of pieces of our life.  Keeping close to the tools that will reorient our focus will guard against any effort of spiritual attack.  Some ideas I have to combat ongoing, insidious attacks are playing and worship songs, praying out loud, establishing healthy, regular rhythms with God to remain in step with His will for my life and memorizing scripture.  Being in a practice of pruning away the things in my own life that take away from God’s glory is also important.  Once the enemy is in, it is difficult to get him out.  

I know that the enemy will use any possible place to threaten the work of God in my life. Nothing is safe from him, unless under the protection of Christ. There is another worship song that my daughter and I love that we often turn on loud by Elevation Worship, “See a Victory” . The chorus goes, “Cause my God will never fail. No, My God will never fail. I’m gonna see a victory, I'm gonna see a victory…” It goes on repeating this truth, that we WILL see a victory because God never fails. His power is perfect and stronger than any demon or Satan. Be aware of the enemy’s schemes and be ready to support those who are impacted by his evil plans. I know my family will come under attack again and hope the body of believers will circle around us in offering a protective blanket of prayer. We will remain firm in the truth that God wins, always.

Written by Naomi Brubaker

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Naomi is a mom of 3 girls ages 7, 5, and 2.  Her oldest daughter is diagnosed with ADHD and a visual processing disorder.  Her family lives in Richmond Virginia where Naomi leads the special needs ministry at their church.  Her background in special education and ability to understand parents from her experiences with her daughter give her a unique perspective in her role at the church.  Naomi loves to run, sew and take walks with her husband with any free time she has. 

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Jolene Philo Jolene Philo

"Write Everything Down"

“Write everything down,” my adult daughter said.

I stared at her, equally amazed by her wisdom and my epic fail to practice what I’ve been preaching for more than a decade…

Written by Jolene Philo

“Write everything down,” my adult daughter said.

I stared at her, equally amazed by her wisdom and my epic fail to practice what I’ve been preaching for more than a decade.

When I spoke at special needs and disability conferences–pre-pandemic of course–parents would ask how to be effective advocates for their kids. My top 3 tidbits of advice were always:

  1. Let people in.

  2. Don’t take no for an answer.

  3. Write everything down.

Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

How had I forgotten my own best advice this spring while advocating on my mother’s behalf? I’m blaming my oversight partly on the pandemic (it’s about time it was good for something), and partly on my inability to see that effective special needs advocacy practices are equally effective while advocating for the elderly.

I tore myself away from staring in amazement at my daughter–when did she become so wise?– and went into my office where I began to write everything down as she had advised. That was about 2 weeks after Mom’s health issues began, and the timeline of events was still clear in my mind. At the time this post was written, the timeline had stretched to 4 weeks and counting. If my daughter hadn’t said to write everything down when she did, the increasing number of events would have become muddled and my recording of them inaccurate. Not good.

Because effective special needs advocacy practices can be applied effectively during elder care advocacy, and vice versa, let’s see how the other two tidbits of advice can work for both populations.

1. Let people in.

Once I wrote everything down, I sent copies of the document to my 2 siblings. I add to it a couple times a week and send the updated document to them again. Why? First, it eliminates the need to send lengthy texts to keep them in the loop. Second, they send me feedback about what they believe next steps should be. Today’s update led to my brother and I scheduling a meeting we’ll attend together on Mom’s behalf. Our sister, who lives in a different state, suggested language to use during the meeting. By letting them in, our advocacy is united and more powerful. We do our loved ones, whatever their ages, a great service when letting people leads to more effective advocacy.

2. Don’t take no for an answer.

As a lifelong rule follower and people pleaser, this one’s hard for me. I trust and respect people in authority. I don’t want to question them. If I was the only person involved, I probably wouldn’t question them. But this isn’t about me, just like your advocacy on behalf of your kids. It’s about them, their care, their quality of life, and respecting their wishes. So when I detect inaccuracies or hear something stated from an incomplete perspective, I push back. I provide my version of events and share my documentation. Which leads back to where this post started.

3. Write everything down.

Mom will need my sibling and I to be her voice, her advocates, for the rest of her life. Depending on your children’s special needs or disability, you will be their voices and their advocates, at least for a time. By writing everything down we are equipping ourselves to speak well on their behalf, for however long our loved ones require our advocacy.

I’ve added a final tidbit of advice to my list, though it may not work for you. Would you like to know what it is? Listen to your daughter. She’s one wise woman!

Written by Jolene Philo

Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Jolene Philo is the author of the Different Dream series for parents of kids with special needs. She speaks at parenting and special needs conferences around the country. She's also the creator and host of the Different Dream websiteSharing Love Abundantly With Special Needs Families: The 5 Love Languages® for Parents Raising Children with Disabilities, which she co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, was released in August of 2019 and is available at local bookstores, their bookstore website, and at Amazon.

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Cathy Porter Cathy Porter

Connecting With Your Children When There Is No Time

Life can be really full on can’t it! With all the phone calls, appointments and forms that need filling in. Then there’s the planning and support needed for all the everyday things that need doing, and places that need going to… Written by Cathy Porter

Life can be really full on can’t it! With all the phone calls, appointments and forms that need filling in. Then there’s the planning and support needed for all the everyday things that need doing, and places that need going to. Add to that the constant worries and wonderings about small things like health, friendships, discipline, eating. You know the kind of small details I’m talking about! Life can be so crammed full that it is hard to find time to simply be with my children, and have that time to really connect.

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I love to find hobbies or projects that we all have an interest in, and have them ready to go (out in a corner of a room for as long as we can practically stand it) for those moments when either we have space together or those moments when we both need a welcome distraction from the battle over whatever it happens to be right then. It took a bit of time to work out what kinds of things, and it also took a change of attitude to the mess of it constantly being left out but after a while it was so clear to me that it was well worth it.

I had gotten so overwhelmed by all the necessary busy-ness of life that I had lost moments of laughter, of fun, and of understanding and appreciating each other’s strengths in the midst of it all.

We have found common ground in Lego projects, in art for bedrooms, in puzzles, in gardening, in Sims, in crafts. Lately my youngest and I (often joined by my eldest too) have been working on a project to build a dolls house for her 14 inch doll. We have been having fun trying to repurpose all sorts of bits and bobs we have in the house. We have been taking our time and chatting as we go. AS clothes and furniture, wallpaper designs and garden spaces have evolved, we have adored it together. It may not be perfect but it’s been a wonderful process, worth all the mess and the saving of the recycling.

The thing is I never actually have time to do these things, but somehow when they are ready to go we can find moments to dip in and out of the project together.

It’s such a simple thing but something I am increasingly thankful for. Positive time together with my kids is just so needed, for them and their well-being and also for me as a parent under pressure. Doing something together that our strengths and talents can shine through is a wonderful thing, especially when so much of the day to day feels like a battle, and so much of the admin and appointments focuses in on the weaknesses and areas that need support.

What do you enjoy doing with your kids? My husband finds very different projects to be common ground. Whatever it is, be encouraged. Yes, you and I are busy with so many things but moments of busy enjoyment together are never wasted. 

Written by Cathy Porter

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Cathy Porter is  a disciple of Jesus, a mum, ordained and a vicar's wife (in the Church of England), a writer, a creative, a blogger.


Cathy and her husband, Andrew, have 3 children. Her two girls both a diagnosis of ASC. You can follow the ups and downs of family life & faith on her blog.

It is Cathy’s heart to encourage families to share in the adventure of faith together, especially families beautifully shaped by ASC. She loves to write stories that make the reader think, ask questions about what we believe, and help the reader to discover what the Bible has to say about God and friendship with him. 

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