Stages In The Parenting Journey Part 2
Last week, I began this series by sharing about this epic adventure our family is on. If you missed it, you can read it here. This journey our family is on share a lot of similarities to the journey in special needs and has four stages. This week, I will look at stage two.
Stage 2 – Shock & Research
We realized we had to move if I was ever going to have the chance to heal and recover my health.
Following that demarcating decision there was so much to do. I dove into research, as I’ve become accustomed to doing. What could be salvaged and what could not? What process it would take to save what we could? No one fully agrees. It’s hard to get a straight answer. In fact, there is no one size fits all answer to the situation. Not only is there no simple answer, there’s no straightforward answer.
After a fair bit of digging and lots of reading including books and webpages of specialists, we had to make a decision and move forward even though there was no sure answer. Based on the best information we were able to gather and based on the testing we had had done, we had to get rid of nearly all of our things. Anything that wasn’t solid and completely washable in a special solution that kills mold and breaks down mycotoxins had to go. No, surely not. This couldn’t be the answer. But it was.
In the special needs journey, an ultrasound may show an anomaly, a medical complication may show up at or shortly after birth, a developmental issue or regression may be noticed or occur between 1-3 years old, there are different demarcating starts to the journey. But they are all followed by a lot of research and figuring out what is next. What can be done? What is the prognosis? What does the diagnosis mean? How to handle the interventions needed whether it is surgeries, medical treatments, therapies, or all of them. Who goes with the child? Who takes care of the other kids? Who works to earn the money? How do we juggle it all? Mom and dad’s learning curves are steep. There is so much to learn, so much that is yet unknown, so many decisions to make.
There often is no one right choice, yet a path forward must be chosen and pursued. You didn’t want to go this direction. You don’t like any of the choices. Is it possible this is all a horrible dream and you’ll awake soon?
To be continued…
Written by Sarah McGuire
