Focus On The Good
There is simply an overwhelming number of things that I can genuinely find myself concerned about at the moment. What hasn’t been turned on its head, what hasn’t been pushed to the limit?! My head is spinning just trying to keep up with the changes that have had to happen within our family home to make any learning happen over the last couple of months, and now the changes happening outside the home looking towards summer as lock down eases slowly but surely.
There are days when the concerns could drown everything good out. And it feels as if I run from one problem to quickly trouble shoot the next. Juggling constantly just to keep everything and everyone going as we all struggle to adjust to new ways of having to work, not being able to meet people the way we’re used to, and not having the usual supports and routines to lean on. In the midst of it all, I’ve been asked to take up a paid job – part time thank goodness – and a huge privilege to be offered. I’ll be working in our local high school as their chaplain. One of the things I get involved in as you can imagine is delivering reflections and collective worship opportunities – all virtually at the moment of course. This week I’m putting together (in between everything else on my plate) some thoughts about resilience and staying positive.
I’m looking at a little verse from the Bible, in a little letter called Philippians. After reminding us to take our worries to God in prayer it says this:
‘..whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things’.
Sound advice – written well before mindfulness and CBT became ‘a thing’ here it is – a little note from God simply reminding us how good it is for us to put our focus on the good stuff. Let’s face it, we never need reminding to focus in on the negative! How I need reminding to look for the good in the everyday.
Moving into summer, I want to find some time to document the good we’ve shared during this surreal and unexpected few months. I’ve taken photos of all our new experiences, of us doing our work in new and strange places in the house – of the tent where our youngest has done her school work (when willing), and of all the moments of unexpected laughter and fun. I need to remind myself that there has been good, and beautiful alongside the tough and relentless.
I wonder if we might all jot down our best memories of the month, or draw how we’ve felt when we’ve had a fun day at home together so that, together with the photos, we can put together a family scrapbook of our experience of lock down – reminding ourselves to focus on all that is good in the midst of what has been, for many of us, a really hard time!
Written by Cathy Porter
